Recently I have been thinking about my wokeness and well,,,,,everybody else’s. On the internet, specifically on X, I feel as though my morals are constantly being questioned, especially in terms of… sex. Does casual sex have to involve dates? Is eating a mans ass allowed? And most recently Is giving a man a blowjob anti feminist? Most of the time twitter is just noise to me but this question seriously piqued my interest. So instead of rolling my eyes, I am asking myself (and you) the same pressing question, Is giving fellatio to a man politically correct?
“Nobody wants to date a dick sucking bisexual” is a reply I saw to the question why don’t lesbians date bisexual women? Sheesh! I found this reply incredibly harsh but also very, very interesting. With this response, men and lesbians share a similar viewpoint where once a man touches you, you begin to lose value.
Another user stated, “Men call us cum buckets on here every other day. Why would you advocate for us to be intimate with them? It’s not purity culture, having sex with men is not worth it!”
I believe that sometimes in our attempts to be as politically correct and socially aware as possible, people can swing so hard that the take itself genuinely leans, if not fully into far-right conservatism. Slut-shaming from men is a common and of course very real problem. Men treating women as disposable is a familiar social pattern. However, I wonder if the solution is to completely omit men and sex entirely. And I think this is where things start to blur: when personal boundaries begin to turn into universal rules. Choosing not to engage with men can absolutely be valid, empowering even (to some) but when that choice becomes something other women are judged against, it starts to echo the very same systems it’s trying to reject. This perspective also fails to consider the fact that women can and do enjoy sex too. Some may counter this with, well, women can buy vibrators, dildos, bananas, pickles, cucumbers hell, even a hairbrush! to successfully fulfill the hole (ahhahahahahhaha) and the desire to have sex with men. But then we are discounting the intimacy of two people choosing to have sex with each other.
Do we have to bring our politics into the bedroom? Should we question every single thing we do? Humans are hypocrites by nature, I think we all bend our own morals in small ways every day. (You certainly do have an instagram account does this mean you personally support Mark Zuckerberg?) Through this whole discussion (that, believe it or not, went on for daysssssssss), I wondered: are we even allowed to question what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own lives?
As the internet grows and slowly suffocates every part of real life, do we also carry this “woke fairy” in our heads, whispering critiques at every turn? The internet is no place for nuance; it’s one of the few corners of the world where everything is black or white, right or left, yes or no. But humans need nuance. The decisions we make are hardly ever unadorned.
And with everything going on in this crazy, sick world…
To suck or not to suck…?
To fuck or not to fuck…?
Is that really the question?????
Quite an interesting piece, the thing of that is, are you giving pleasure to please your partner in which gives you power to know that you have the ability to do so? Or is it because you feel obligated in which it makes you feel powerless and under his dominance
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I know this question lacks the “nuance” that we must give humans but…. if a nig eating it like egos out the toaster would that be considered a feminist act? Are eaters feminist/is munching out a fuck you to the western puritanical depiction of sex we’ve adopted. Especially in a day and age where we still mock the smell/taste/look of the vagina.